How to Get Past Your First Date Worries

How to Get Past Your First Date Worries

Dating can be fun and exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking and stressful. When it comes to a first date, it’s always more stressful. You’re going out with a person that you don’t really know; you’re feeling the pressure to find them romantically appealing; you’re worrying about how they feel about you. All of these thoughts swimming through your mind can really put a dampener on an otherwise fun evening. Being a little nervous is completely normal. However there is no need to let your nerves ruin your chances of finding romance. To help you become a dating guru, here are some tips to help you get past your first date worries.

Be Confident in Your Match

One of the things that people worry about the most on a first date is the possibility of awkward silences, and having nothing in common with the other person. Take this worry out of the equation by organizing a date with someone who you are sure fits the bill. If you are nervous about this, then trying a matchmaking service is a great idea. This way, all the hard work can be done for you, and you can be sure that you are going to be meeting someone who shares the same passions and interests.

Take Time out to Relax

Try to organize your date for a weekend evening so you have some time to chill out and relax beforehand. If you are rushing straight out of work and off to meet your date, then you will be feeling flustered and stressed before you even walk in the door. Let yourself feel calm and excited by having some alone time beforehand. Have a relaxing bath or binge watch a couple of episodes of your favourite TV show.

Pick a Destination you are Familiar With

Many people will feel like a first date should be full of new experience and spontaneity. However, for those of us who are a bit more anxious, this can add a whole other world of stress to an already stressful event. Give yourself the opportunity to feel comfortable by choosing a date destination that you are already familiar with. Pick a bar that you frequently go with your friends, or a restaurant that you know serves delicious food. This way you can be sure that there is one consistent and familiar factor in your date experience.

Good luck!


Born and raised in Ottawa, Ann is a writer and amateur wine expert. She loves trying out the latest pubs and restaurants around town, unless "The Bachelor" is on. Don't bug her when "The Bachelor" is on.

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